Muslim Woman: NIKAH (Marriage) in Islam
Man and woman agree together to lead married life and this
agreement is called nikah (marriage), and the two parties
accept the responsibilities and obligations and thus live
together as husband and wife. For nikah it is necessary
that both man and woman have attained the age of puberty-
the age of full bloom and strength -Quran chapter 4 verse
6 & Quran chapter 40 verse 67. Nikah /Marriage is not
possible without mutual consent of both the parties in the
presence of at least two witnesses, one from the side of
the man and the other from the side of woman. Men and
women have free choice to marry each other -Quran chapter
4 verse 3- Men have been forbidden to marry women against
their will, they cannot marry -Quran chapter 4 verse 19-
without obtaining consent of women and thus become their
masters instead of companion. The criterion for selection
of spouse should be the unanimity of ideology and faith in
Islam, and this is the reason why a momin male Believer is
forbidden to marry a mushrika female unbeliever & vice
versa, thus to save home from becoming hell whereas Allah
Almighty wants it to become heaven -Quran chapter 2 verse
221-
Nikah /Marriage should be performed in a declared manner,
and the relationship between the spouses should not be
kept a secret. If it is performed secretly it is not
legal -Quran chapter 4 verse 25 & Quran chapter 5 verse 5.
The Quran has not suggested any ceremony for
Nikah /Marriage, nor it has mentioned about involvement of
a third person to perform it. Since Nikah /Marriage is an
agreement between two parties, government can formulate
rules and regulations (marriage Act), and it has to be
performed accordingly. For those who are capable of
getting married the society has to provide facilities for
Nikah /Marriage , Those who could not get facilities to
get married should keep themselves chaste by self-control
till they get alliance -Quran chapter 24 verse 3-
Prostitution is prohibited. Married couple is forbidden
from sexual Intercourse when:
(I) The women is not in normal physical condition i.e.
during menses, and after this period they can have it as
per the natural laws -Quran Chapter 2 Verse 222-
(ii) When either of them or both are observing fast of
course from dawn to dusk -Quran chapter 2 Verse 187- and
(iii) Even from dusk to dawn when one is in retreat in the
mosque.
Forbidden Women for Nikah /Marriage. They are:
(1) Yours mothers
(2) Your daughters
(3) Your sisters
(4) Your father’s sisters
(5) Your mother’s sisters
(6) Your brother’s daughters
(7) Your sister’s daughters
(8) Your foster mothers
(9) Your foster sisters
(10) Mothers of your wives
(11) Your stepdaughters, which have been brought up under
your guardianship and are born of wives with whom you have
had marital relations. If you have not had marital
relations then the prohibition does not apply.
(12) Wives of your real sons.
(13) It is also prohibited to have in marriage two sisters
at the same time.Also forbidden to you in marriage are
those women who are already married except those whom you
already possess -Quran chapter 4 verse 23 & 24
A Muslim man should not marry a mushrika / non believer
woman until she accepts Islam; like wise Muslim woman
should not marry mushrik / non believers man until he
accepts Islam Quran chapter 2 verse 221- A Muslim woman
cannot marry a man from amongst the people who believe in
the earlier scriptures Quran chapter 5 verse 5-
agreement is called nikah (marriage), and the two parties
accept the responsibilities and obligations and thus live
together as husband and wife. For nikah it is necessary
that both man and woman have attained the age of puberty-
the age of full bloom and strength -Quran chapter 4 verse
6 & Quran chapter 40 verse 67. Nikah /Marriage is not
possible without mutual consent of both the parties in the
presence of at least two witnesses, one from the side of
the man and the other from the side of woman. Men and
women have free choice to marry each other -Quran chapter
4 verse 3- Men have been forbidden to marry women against
their will, they cannot marry -Quran chapter 4 verse 19-
without obtaining consent of women and thus become their
masters instead of companion. The criterion for selection
of spouse should be the unanimity of ideology and faith in
Islam, and this is the reason why a momin male Believer is
forbidden to marry a mushrika female unbeliever & vice
versa, thus to save home from becoming hell whereas Allah
Almighty wants it to become heaven -Quran chapter 2 verse
221-
Nikah /Marriage should be performed in a declared manner,
and the relationship between the spouses should not be
kept a secret. If it is performed secretly it is not
legal -Quran chapter 4 verse 25 & Quran chapter 5 verse 5.
The Quran has not suggested any ceremony for
Nikah /Marriage, nor it has mentioned about involvement of
a third person to perform it. Since Nikah /Marriage is an
agreement between two parties, government can formulate
rules and regulations (marriage Act), and it has to be
performed accordingly. For those who are capable of
getting married the society has to provide facilities for
Nikah /Marriage , Those who could not get facilities to
get married should keep themselves chaste by self-control
till they get alliance -Quran chapter 24 verse 3-
Prostitution is prohibited. Married couple is forbidden
from sexual Intercourse when:
(I) The women is not in normal physical condition i.e.
during menses, and after this period they can have it as
per the natural laws -Quran Chapter 2 Verse 222-
(ii) When either of them or both are observing fast of
course from dawn to dusk -Quran chapter 2 Verse 187- and
(iii) Even from dusk to dawn when one is in retreat in the
mosque.
Forbidden Women for Nikah /Marriage. They are:
(1) Yours mothers
(2) Your daughters
(3) Your sisters
(4) Your father’s sisters
(5) Your mother’s sisters
(6) Your brother’s daughters
(7) Your sister’s daughters
(8) Your foster mothers
(9) Your foster sisters
(10) Mothers of your wives
(11) Your stepdaughters, which have been brought up under
your guardianship and are born of wives with whom you have
had marital relations. If you have not had marital
relations then the prohibition does not apply.
(12) Wives of your real sons.
(13) It is also prohibited to have in marriage two sisters
at the same time.Also forbidden to you in marriage are
those women who are already married except those whom you
already possess -Quran chapter 4 verse 23 & 24
A Muslim man should not marry a mushrika / non believer
woman until she accepts Islam; like wise Muslim woman
should not marry mushrik / non believers man until he
accepts Islam Quran chapter 2 verse 221- A Muslim woman
cannot marry a man from amongst the people who believe in
the earlier scriptures Quran chapter 5 verse 5-
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Is the husband able to beat a disobedient wife?
Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret what Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High Exalted, Great.
Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them to excel others and because they spend out of their property; the good women are therefore obedient, guarding the unseen as Allah has guarded; and (as to) those on whose part you fear desertion, admonish them, and leave them alone in the sleeping-places and beat them; then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them; surely Allah is High, Great.
Men are the protectors And maintainers of women, Because Allah has given The one more (strength) Than the other, and because They support them From their means. Therefore the righteous women Are devoutly obedient, and guard In (the husband’s) absence What Allah would have them guard. As to those women On whose part ye fear Disloyalty and ill-conduct, Admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (And last) beat them (lightly); But if they return to obedience, Seek not against them Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, Great (above you all).
Quran 4:34
Is the woman lacking in intelligence compared to men?
According to Muhammad, women lack common sense because their minds are deficient. Of course, this declaration didn’t go unchallenged. To his credit, Muhammad allowed women to question him about their intellectual deficiencies. His response to these questions was illuminating:
[Muhammad said]: O womenfolk, you should give charity and ask much forgiveness for I saw you in bulk amongst the dwellers of Hell. A wise lady among them said: Why is it, Messenger of Allah, that our folk is in bulk in Hell? Upon this the Holy Prophet observed: You curse too much and are ungrateful to your spouses. I have seen none lacking in common sense and failing in religion but (at the same time) robbing the wisdom of the wise, besides you. Upon this the woman remarked: What is wrong with our common sense and with religion? He (the Holy Prophet) observed: Your lack of common sense (can be well judged from the fact) that the evidence of two women is equal to one man, that is a proof of the lack of common sense.
Sahih Muslim, Abdul Hamid Siddiqi, tr., Number 142.
The Prophet (the blessing and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "Isn’t the witness of a woman equal to half of that of a man?" The women said: "Yes." He said: "This is because of the deficiency of her mind."
Sahih Al-Bukhari, Dr. Muhammad Matraji, tr. (New Delhi: Islamic Book Service, 2002), Number 2658.
Comment by Elmers Brother— 2006/01/27 @ 04:40 AM — (Reply)
i think this makes sense although i would prefer to get 'nikah' in private without the large crowds.
Comment by Raisa Ali— 2006/02/08 @ 07:57 AM — (Reply)